And, according to her, the don’ts of sex are:

1. Never have a ‘type’ of orgasm — have your orgasm

Instead of trying to have a breast, clitoral, G-spot or blended orgasm, forget the labels and have yours. Don’t worry about having a specific type, but focus on pampering your whole body, attending to any of its hot spots. This beckons your orgasm by not being so goal-oriented.

2. Never talk about past sexual relationships

Don’t invite distress into your current romance by reminiscing about the good times or bad times you’ve had with other jerks, hotties, players or loves. Focus on the present and making it the most memorable.

3. Never let sex get routine

While it’s wise to get in a routine to make sure sex happens, don’t let the sex itself get routine. This only invites monotony and the mundane. To keep things hot, be sure to keep things new and fresh.

4. Never just lie there

A big complaint you’ll hear from men and women alike is that their lover didn’t do much of anything during sex. Men have grumbled that she doesn’t move during lovemaking. Most people like an active lover — one responsive to the action, which shows that they’re into the moment.

5. Never move in together (or get married) a second time

Things didn’t work out the first time for good reason. Maybe you love each other, but if you’re incompatible or fight too much, it’s better to cut your losses and move on to a situation that does work.

6. Never drink cheap beer and stay overnight

Don’t set yourself up to be someone’s gassy guest. Get the walk of shame over with sooner rather than later, lest you stink up someone’s bedroom and bathroom. This is not the kind of lasting impression most seducers are after.

7. Never drink more than 1-2 glasses of alcohol

While spirits can do a lot for one’s spirits, sexual self-confidence and libido, keep your booze to a minimum. More than a couple of glasses can cause erectile difficulties in men and vaginal dryness in women. Being buzzed or drunk can also lead to high-risk sexual behaviours.

8. Never compare yourself to Victoria’s Secret or Abercrombie models.

It’s no good to think that these real-life moving mannequins are the standard by which you should judge your face or form. You’ve got your own unique look and that can be super sexy, depending on how you wear it. That starts with a smile and indicating to others that you feel quite good about yourself.

9. Never totally trust magazine sex tips

Don’t mindlessly copy magazine sex tips. Think about the suggestion first. Is it hot or completely ridiculous? Will it work for your sexual relationship? Or does it have the potential to sabotage your sex life?

10. Never douche before sex

Despite popular belief, douching is not a safe or healthy way to clean the vagina. Doing so upsets the vagina’s delicate chemical balance, increasing your chance of developing pelvic inflammatory disease or other health problems. Let the vagina naturally cleanse itself and worry about other much sexier activities pre-sex.

11. Never attempt tricky Kama Sutra positions if you are not flexible.

Stick with pursuing sexual positions that are comfortable for you.

12. Never listen to somebody slamming your sexy self.

Is a guy suggesting that you get breast implants? Is some gal making fun of your penis size? In either case, ignore the criticism, or in the very least, fire back.

Erotic Instructions:

Both you and your guy lie on your sides, facing each other. Lean in close together and scissor your legs through his so you’re superclose and he’s deep inside you as he enters you. While thrusting, hold on to each other for leverage and ultimate friction.

Why You’ll Love It:

Rather than typical in-and-out thrusting, this sexual web your bodies create lets you and your guy please each other with grinding, circular motions. Try gyrating your hips in circles around his member for an incredible erotic explosion. It’s a tight-together fit that generates lots of tension, yet lets you kiss, nibble, and stroke each other while doing the deed. You can reach behind and rake your nails lightly along his back, causing spine-tingling sexy shivers a major erotic move he may not expect, but one that will make him moan even more.

Let your fingers venture even further south and surprise him by reaching back and stroking his perineum, the area below his anus that’s rich in nerve endings. But make sure you’re just about to reach your peak, because this move is sure to speed up his arrival of the Big O.

3 Avoid a heavy meal before sex. Oysters and asparagus are assumed to be aphrodisiacs, but this is only because of visual or olfactory associations. Champagne is a better bet, but choose a less acidic one, lest exotic Kama Sutra-style acts cause indigestion.

4 Be careful with drink. We all know drinking increases a mans desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realises it also affects a womans sexual response. More than two or three drinks and some women may be loving but physiologically limited.

5 Any penile discharge or sore, however apparently trivial, means that sex is out. Chlamydia in the male may be almost symptom-free. It may show only as a mild inflammation of the end of the penis, so that the lips are stuck together in the morning.

6 Always use a condom with a new partner, even if she seems as innocent as a nun. Regular partners should still have chlamydia and blood tests.

7 Men fear judgment, whether by colleagues in the office, teammates in the changing room or, above all, by a new girlfriend. Penis size can worry some men. Remember that someones penis always looks smaller to the owner than to an onlooker. Women may prefer a medium-size but thick penis but, if a lover is attentive, even if offering a button rather than a baton, it wont matter.

8 Dont rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia. Take it slowly. Learn to massage. This can easily shade into great foreplay, especially if your partner is tired or stressed. Use plenty of lubrication.

9 Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her and generally spoiling her. Dont neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones.

10 Both sexes have off days. Most men occasionally have poor or tardy erections and even fit, athletic, overenthusiastic men, as well as the inexperienced and anxious, may suffer premature ejaculation.

Have A Nice Sex

The nice, slow lovemaking where all you do is focus on your sensations, is the new mantra to renew your sex life as you rediscover each other.

Sensate-focused sex exercises involve a series of behavioural practices, which offer variety and increased personal awareness through basic touch.

Originally developed by sex researchers Drs WilliamMasters and Virginia Johnson, sensate focus exercises involve each partner paying increased attention to their own sensations when stimulated.

Particularly for couples in sex therapy, the exercises have helped lovers to overcome issues like performance anxiety, rapid ejaculation, lack of orgasm and erectile dysfunction.

The benefits of sensate focus include, discovering new types of touch, spine-tingling sensations, increased comfort with physical intimacy and better awareness of your lover’s body as well as your own.

Apart from these, going for such exercises can help couples to strengthen their relationship, and also guarantees no fear of failure, better sex communication and heightened sexual excitement.

With such non-demands and pleasuring exercises, couples do not make sex goal-oriented, instead, they enjoy the experience of being with one another, touching and feeling each other’s bodies.

These highly structured touch activities are about enjoying physical contact to the fullest without trying to arouse each other and should not be mistaken as a form of foreplay, because it is the main experience in itself.

Done in several stages over time, they are tailor-made to a couple’s specific issues when working with a sex therapist, reports Fox News.

Couples in therapy are usually advised to abstain from having intercourse while focusing on the physical sensations triggered during sensate play.

This not only alleviates anxiety and mental distractions that lead to sexual difficulties, but also offer up a greater awareness of the wide range of stimuli that encompass all of the senses.

The rules for sensate focus sex are:
1. Breasts and genitals are off limits for the first few sessions.

2. Verbal feedback is limited unless you’re uncomfortable or in pain.

3. Do not try to elicit sexual response (but don’t sweat it if it happens).

4. After each session, be sure to process the experience.

When pursuing sensate focus exercises, set aside at least 60 uninterrupted minutes in a warm bedroom and one may even enhance the setting with soothing music and candles.

If it helps, take a bath (or anything else that relaxes you). Take your time, over several “dates” and finally get on with the sessions.

Sensate focus sex could establish new ways of relating to each other and partners may find themselves having some of the best sex of their lives.

Well, go green between the sheets.

Intimacy in the bedroom is not only healthy for your relationship but it can be good for the environment, too, if you use the following tips, reports Fox News. Here are 8 ways to make your sex life a little more eco-friendly:

1. Organic lubricants: Companies are starting to make lubricants free of parabens and petro-chemicals, like Babeland Naturals Organic Lube.

2. Bamboo sheets: Make over your bed with silky bamboo fabric. These eco-friendly, luxury sheets come from a renewable source and are usually grown without pesticides and harsh chemicals.

3. Eco-lingerie: Slippery and stylish, eco-undies and other fine undergarments are now made of hemp silk, organic cotton, bamboo, and other renewable fibers.

4. Environmentally-friendly condoms: Consider using the sheepskin condom, for it is biodegradable.

5. Sustainable wooden paddles: Coco de Mer makes top of the line sustainable wooden paddles complimented with fair-trade leather wrist cuffs.

6. Phthalate-free vibrators: The sex toy industry has started to make vibrators out of elastomer, a latex-free material that doesn’t contain phthalate — which can cause birth defects.

7. Local flowers: Try to use locally grown or seasonal flowers when wooing your lover. They’re right there and don’t require using as many fossil fuels by coming from miles away.

8. Organic wine: When wining and dining each other, go for wines made from certified organically grown grapes. These are grown without any chemical fertilizers, insecticides, weed killers and other synthetic chemicals.

Use This Methods And Enjoy A Happy Sex Life

According to Fox News, the tips to overcome embarrassing sex moments are:
1. Sex can be clumsy

Whether accidentally knocking heads, pulling hair or taking an elbow in the eye, it’s important to remember that our movements aren’t as well-orchestrated as that of a symphony. Bodies bumping up against one another can get out of control and out of sync.
2. A full bladder is no fun

For most people, there is no worse time to hold your bladder than during sex. But people do. They would rather suffer their way through painful sex than call a time-out to hit the toilet. So if you want to go then go.
3. Naked bodies do make noises

Sweaty bodies can catch air as they rub up against each other, making it sound like somebody just ripped one.

4. Sexual Shakespeares are not made overnight

Like with so many sex acts, practice makes perfect. The same goes for erotic talk. In expanding your sexual vernacular, a little bit of rehearsal may be required.
5. Bad breath stinks

Whether your breath reeks, or you’re keeling over from that of your lover’s, simply state that you want to be more kissable. Explain that fresh breath will make both of you feel like getting fresher. Then ask your lover if he or she would like a piece of gum, a breath mint, or care to join you for some toothbrush time. Be playful about it.
6. ‘Drunk driving’ isn’t always sexy

It’s best to abstain from any kind of sexual rendezvous when you’ve had a few too many.

According to the research, led by Dr Eric Corty, from the Behrend College in Erie, Pennsylvania, three-minute sex is ‘adequate’.

The study is the first to review what the experts believe is the ideal length of time to have penetrative sex, with the random sample of Americans and Canadians labeling seven to 13 minutes most ‘desirable’.

The study concluded that intercourse lasting between three and seven minutes was ‘adequate’, but anything less was ‘too short’ and beyond 13 minutes was ‘too long’.

The extraordinary research is designed to help calm couples’ unrealistic beliefs that healthy sex should last a long time.

Corty said that this was a situation “ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction”.

“In the fantasy model of male sexuality, men have large penises, rock-hard erections, and can sustain sexual activity all night long,” News.com.au quoted Corty, as saying.

“It appears that many men and women hold this fantasy. The results from the present study, by providing a realistic not a fantasy model of sexuality, are useful both in treating people with sexual concerns and dysfunctions, and with wider circulation, in preventing the onset of sexual dysfunctions,” he added.

Reacting to the research, Australian sex therapists commented that most Aussie men wanted sex to last considerably longer while most women were ‘not bothered’ if it was over with fast.

Dr Jane Howard, a Brisbane-based medical sex therapist, said there was a dearth of data on Australians’ expectation of sex.

Anecdotal evidence suggested most Australian women would be happy with the therapists’ “adequate” time of three to seven minutes, while men would not.

Whether you”re seeking to abstain, practice safer sex or spice things up, the red hot sexual exchanges involved are well worth exploring.

Outercourse is the umbrella term for any kind of sex play that doesn’t involve oral or traditional sex, but still manages to offer sexual gratification for lovers involved in the act.

It”s ideal in minimising the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and the risk of pregnancy, reports Fox News.

However, the method is not completely foolproof, as it depends on how much clothing people keep on.

Outercourse allows lovemaking to last longer, and couples are given the opportunity to soak in more of what the sexual experience is about.

Partners may feel closer and more connected with each other and themselves, while for new lovers, it allows them to build trust while feeling sexually connected.

For older, experienced lovers, outercourse can hurl them back in time, helping them to reclaim the thrill of the forbidden nature of sex.

Outercourse embodies a number of sexual activities, including:

Erotic talk — Whether in the boudoir, over the phone, via text or online, lovers can catapult each other to a carnal cosmos with some lascivious lingo.

Sensual storytelling — Between reading sexy stories and looking at erotica, lovers can entertain themselves for hours while playing with their own hot spots.

Role-playing — By sharing fantasies, lovers can pick and choose their preferred real-life passion pursuits.

Erotic massage — Lovers work every part of the body with scintillating sexual touch.

Kissing – Suck face and grope each other like teenagers, eventually showering your lover’s entire body with kisses.

Cybersex — Via instant messaging, e-mail, Internet chatrooms, or cyberspace forums, lovers can have tech sex of all types. Maximum satisfaction is realised in how much you choose to touch yourself versus your keyboard.

Strip Teases — Give your lover his or her own private viewing, being sure to conclude your routine with some lush lip action and titillating touches.

Sexual enhancement products — Sex toys were practically made for outercourse. Offering variety, experimentation, and hours of entertainment, lovers can explore each other’s bodies as they tap all of their senses.

Mutual masturbation — Pleasure yourself for your partner’s pleasure or erotically massage each other’s bodies at the same time or take turns stimulating the other.

Dry sex — Lovers can rub up against each other to no end, stimulating each other into oblivion.

Water works — Taking to a bath or shower allows for the perfect post-rub down.

The details on outercourse are available in Dr Yvonne K Fulbright’s book Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.

Dr. Yvonne K Fulbright, a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc, has come up with the top ten mistakes men make in bed, reports Perth Now.

The biggest mistakes men are as follows:

1. Foreplay doesn’t start in the sack.

The timer for enticing does not start once you hit the sheets. Your pre-game show is best approached as an all-day affair.

Women love to be wooed. Sex is a head game — in more ways than one — and women want to know you can’t get them out of your mind. We love knowing that we are desired.

2. Don’t head south straight away.

Diving in for the genitals too soon usually isn’t the best idea. A woman needs to be properly aroused before any below-the-belt action feels good.

Be sure to focus on her entire body — head to toe — before going for the gold.

3. Remember the clitoris.

Many men think a woman’s orgasm results from penetration.

More than 70 per cent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction, so men need to make sure they are not ignoring the clitoris.

It also helps if you actually know where the clitoris is — some men have been known to rub the urethral opening, which can be a big no-no for some ladies.

4. Get to that G spot.

In digging for buried treasure, many guys don’t know that ‘X’ doesn’t always mark the spot. Found on the front wall of the vagina, a woman’s G spot may be a little higher or lower, or more to one side than the other, than often depicted.

5. Don’t be too goal-oriented.

There is nothing more endearing than a man who wants to play. Just don’t get caught up in yourself. Your sexual exploration should be playtime for two.

Stay ‘present’ in the moment — connecting with your partner will bring the ultimate climax for both of you.

6. Thinking you’re still hot after gaining weight.

‘For better or worse’ should include weight fluctuations, but don’t let yourself go completely.

7. Let her be naughty.

Sometimes she needs to get in touch with her adulterated side. In fact, research has found that women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones. It’s not always about the prince on a white horse or canoodling on the beach.

8. She’s not a porn star.

As seen in porn films, many men expect their lovers to fulfill their every fantasy. Remember that porn is fantasy, not reality. Expecting her to act like a porn star is simply not fair.

9. And men aren’t supposed to look like porn stars.

Despite what XXX-rated films indicate, most women are not lusting after a three-legged man. Maybe some women are up for the challenge, but many are fine with the guy who fits within the norm. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being just that.

10. One orgasm is not always enough.

Women are not as quick to come down from their aroused state as men are post-sex. Many can be launched right back to bliss, and many women do crave more action and orgasms, even if they were perfectly satisfied the first time round.

So Avoid All These Mistakes And Enjoy A Good Sex Life :)

And now, after some intense field research, a team of experts have uncovered six facts about the female orgasm, as revealed by modern science, reports New Scientist magazine.

The six facts are as follows:

The G spot is real

The G spot is a small region in the vagina that, if stimulated, can produce wildly intense orgasms — or so goes the popular claim. But, since decades, strong evidence for the region’s existence was harder to find than the spot itself.

However, in 2008, an Italian research team solved the mystery after they found anatomical differences between women who could have G-spot orgasms and women who couldn’t. And since then, researchers have since begun teaching women with G spots how to put them to use.

The brain switches off

It’s folk wisdom that people can’t think straight when they have sex on their minds, and a brain scanning study showed that many areas of women’s brains were deactivated during orgasm, including those involved in emotion.

Many women can’t have orgasms

According to a 1999 survey, around 43 percent of women in the US have some sort of problem with their sex lives.

Female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is so common that the very idea that it is a medical disorder has come under attack and thus efforts to develop drugs to treat it are underway.

Genes affect orgasm frequency

According to the first genetic study of the female orgasm, up to 45 percent of the variation in women’s ability to have them could be down to genes.

Many women never have orgasms during intercourse, and some also cannot have them through masturbation. Some of this may be down to external factors like upbringing, but the study showed the genetic factor is significant.

Technology can help

Perhaps the most extreme solution for sexual dysfunction among women is the so-called ‘orgasmatron’ — an implant inserted into the spinal cord, which stimulates the user when switched on via a remote control.

Despite an initial struggle to find subjects for clinical testing, the device is now in development.

Some mystery remains

The female orgasm is a puzzle for evolutionary biologists. It is unclear why women should have orgasms at all, and it is particularly baffling that so many women should be unable to have orgasms during penetrative sex, but able to have them by masturbation.

According to researcher Elisabeth Lloyd, this implies that female orgasms are an evolutionary accident. Like male nipples, they persist simply because there is no good reason to get rid of them.